What if you knew every decision you made was wise and you could make those decisions easily?
Is that realistic for any of us? Is it even possible?
One of the most common things many women have told me is they’re indecisive.
“I don’t know what I want to do.”
“I don’t know which one I should do.”
“How do I pick? How do I choose?”
We all want to be able to make decisions wisely and easily.
Indecisiveness is one of the greatest causes of our suffering.
Do you ever notice when you’re wrestling to decide between two things that once you decide, all of the tension you were holding in your body relaxes? It starts to disappear. You start to allow yourself to breathe and move on to the next thing.
But when we’re in the space of indecisiveness, we’re stuck.
Tune into Yourself
One of the greatest things we can do for ourselves in making a decision is to center, ground, connect, and listen deep within ourselves.
If we need to make a decision, we don’t want to go out there trying to find all the answers.
We need to tune in to ourselves and ground within ourselves in order to find guidance within us.
Find Coherence in Your Body, Heart, and Mind
We may not be able to know how wise a decision was until after it’s been made, but clarity comes from action, not the other way around.
When we’re wrestling with a decision we need to make, we’re often stuck in the idea that if we were clear, then we’d know what to do and how to move forward. In the meantime, we’re not moving forward and we’re stuck without moving toward what we’re here to move toward.
If you’re feeling indecisive, get quiet. Tune in deep within yourself. Ask yourself what feels right, and notice the response from your body, heart and mind. See if you can find the decision that’s coherent in all three. This is when your body’s saying, yes, your heart’s saying, yes, and your head is saying, yes. That’s the decision to go with if you’re wrestling and you can’t initially find coherence.
Tune into the energy and see what it feels like. Is it an expansive choice versus contractive?
I talk about the idea of expansiveness vs contraction in one of my blogs on Fear vs Self Doubt. When we’re moving toward something that will expand us, we’re going to have fear and we might be afraid to make a decision in that direction. Yet we know it’ll expand us. It will move us out of our comfort zone. It will help us to grow on our path.
On the other hand, when making a decision, contraction feels like you’re getting stuck in the same place you’ve been in before.
Practice Making Quick Decisions
The biggest thing to remember in making wise decisions is they may never come easily, but they are easier if you’re able to work with some of these tools.
You need to make the decision, because if you don’t make the decision, you don’t move forward, and you suffer a lot of indecisiveness.
Notice how many decisions you make every day.
I know this sounds silly, but go to the grocery store. Notice how many decisions you’re being asked to make in just an hour.
Which brand of this or that do you buy? You go to the checkout and the cashier says, “Do you want bags or boxes? Do you want rubber bands around your eggs? Would you like to donate to this? Would you like to pay with cash or credit?
There are a million decisions we have to make in the grocery store, a basic weekly task for most of us!
Experiment with going in there and making a quick decision. Don’t stew over it. Don’t try to overanalyze it. Just answer the question.
“Would you like a bag?”
“No, thank you.”
“Would you like rubber bands on your eggs?”
Whatever the answer is, just decide in the moment and see how it feels. See how much lighter you feel just letting it go and trusting. Perhaps you say no to the rubber bands around your eggs and somehow they open up and they break in the car. You’ve learned a lesson for next time. You know every time in the future you’ll simply say, “Yes, please put rubber bands around my eggs.”
You’re going to find out what to do by taking action, making the decision, and being decisive.
Trusting Yourself and Building Confidence
Decisiveness comes from a certain amount of confidence, stepping into your voice, and being able to speak for what you need.
Take a look at how you make decisions, and how you don’t make decisions. What paralyzes you, and can you go ahead and take a chance and just make the decision?
Trusting, centering, grounding and seeing if you’re in coherence with your body, mind, and emotions will all help. Trust yourself.
What do you struggle to decide? What happens when you’re indecisive? What decisions are you wrestling with that you need some support in making?
Feel free to share in the comments. Let’s get the conversation going. I’ll reply to every comment.
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