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I feel like I’m finally coming up for air. I’d not previously experienced the Summer months as being a time for deep inner work, but for me, this year was intense. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
We often think of Summer as the out-breath, a time of relaxing, vacationing, ripening, and playing. While I experienced much of that, I also came face to face with old patterns, shadows and saboteurs, yet in the best of ways. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Why the best of ways? In facing my depths, I experienced a clearing within me that is beyond words. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I’ve been feeling raw, as if years of bandaids have been torn off of wounds I didn\u2019t even realize were still covered. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Our journey of inner development is ever spiraling, inward and outward, diving deep into our depths, and then bringing our new learning out into the world to benefit others. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The biggest challenge is finding balance so that we\u2019re not too attached to either process, and dynamically dancing between the inner and outer expressions of our being. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Deep learning and inner work has been a passion of mine for as long as I can remember. The deeper I go, the higher I rise, and…the harder I fall when it’s time to go deep again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n My Summer was an initiation into finding the steadiness I\u2019ve longed for, a sense of balance, a capacity to remain more neutral to the highs and the lows. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n The out-breath of summer is meant to be a release, and I\u2019ve spent far too much time seeking the in-breath rather than relaxing into a space of surrender. I never fully honored how uncomfortable, yet how incredibly important the Summer ripening is. I\u2019ve preferred the deep dives of the Autumn and Winter months, and shied away from the discomfort that Spring and Summer bring for me. I\u2019ve clung to the ability to hide away from much of what I find painful in the world, using my inner work, or a limited idea of out-breathing as an excuse to stay removed from it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Summer ripening can be a teaching in surrender, just as much as the season of Advent can be. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n While the year has its seasons of in-breathing and out-breathing, in reality, we\u2019re constantly in dynamic movement between the two. We need only stay conscious of all that we\u2019re being shown, and be willing to allow discomfort through the learning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you’ve followed my work for a while, you know I have a big passion for navigating extremes, finding a middle way if interweaving that allows us to feel steady and strong. We might think of these extremes as dark and light, left and right, pro and anti, and so many other ways we see extremism playing out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Learning to find greater neutrality in our response to the heights and the depths of our experiences is a powerful tool for finding our empowered self and releasing attachment. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n In a patriarchal dominance culture, we’re taught to be “on” 24\/7. Stay strong. Keep going. Make things happen. Stay in control. Don’t let them see you sweat. Don’t mess up. Push through. Feel good. Stay happy. Don\u2019t get down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n No wonder we like the heights so much!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Something interesting I’ve seen in both my clients and myself is that many of us as women aren’t learning this from our fathers. We’re learning the non-negotiable requirement to be \u201con\u201d or \u201cfeel good\u201d all the time from our mothers. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The feminine has been so repressed and disdained for so long, that our mothers have adopted patriarchal dominance behaviors to survive. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This gets passed on for generations. The trauma of our ancestors is in our DNA, and Much of my mission in life is to heal this DNA within me while helping others to do the same for themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s time for us as women to break these ties, awaken inner wisdom, and connect with the Sacred Feminine. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n This Summer felt like I was dredging the river of my being, truly getting to the bottom of many patterns and habits. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, the Summer is a time for out-breathing, yet when you’re submerged in the river, you can only breathe out for so long before you need an in-breath, and in order to do that, you must come up for air.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes, life teaches us to hold our breath for a much longer time than is comfortable; not holding in the patriarchal dominance ways that resist, pretend, or keep us from things, but holding in ways that say, “Stay with this feeling. Be with these emotions. Notice what’s happening. Ride the waves of the discomfort and relax into it. Let go of the full breath before breathing in again.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I was training as a competitive swimmer, our coach would ask us at the end of practice, when we were completely exhausted, to swim the length of a 25 yard pool underwater without coming up for air. I quickly learned that the only way to do it was to relax. I would go deep, and skim the bottom of the pool with gentle, gliding strokes, a relaxed face, and eyes softly open. Once I learned to relax and “hug the bottom,” I got to the other end fairly easily. Eventually, I even turned around at the end while still underwater and made it back to where I started without any in-breath. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In order to do the deep inner work, we must learn to “hug the bottom” of our own depths, relax into all that is being dredged up, and embrace it as our own. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nThe Insidious Nature of Patriarchal Dominance<\/h2>\n\n\n\n